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Daughters: failure to launch, mothers Distress: children’s safety and parents,
and,165–66; fathers’ fears about, xiii, ix, xiii–xiv,22,81,89,91–94,181–82,
95; fathers’ relationships with,14–16, 202–5,224; coming out in,64–65;
108–10,118,140–41,155,199–201; gift parent-child confrontations in,77–79
of lesbian,183–215; intense relation- “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy,223
ships and,2,17–19,76–77; lack of Drugs,163,180,204; addiction,54–55,
personal grooming by,18; mothers’ 57,227; antidepressants,137,150,180,
relationships with,9,57,115,154–56, 186; cocaine,158; methamphetamine,
201,242–43; parental suspicion 227
about,17–22,52;see also Coming out;
Youth Elephant in the room,see Coming out;
Da Vinci, Leonardo,188 Suspicion
DeGeneres, Betty,129 Ellen DeGeneres Show,57
DeGeneres, Ellen,55,57,143,146,188 Environments: assessment, treatment of,
De Jong, P.,178,211 and working with,45–46; mothers
Denial, suspicion during family sensiti- in control of emotional climate and,
zation, inklings and,23–27 72; sexual orientation, distance and
Depression: parents and,82,87,88,89, hostile,39–41
95,125,134,149,154,172,186,248; Etheridge, Melissa,146
youth and,41–42,50,51–52,54,57, Ethnicity: coming out influenced by,
59,64,163–64,248 217–22,224,226–27; double stigma
Diagnostic Manual, x and,218–21; poverty, unemployment
Diamond, L. M.,238 and,216–17; race and,216–30; stress-
Diaz, Rafael,223 related illness, incarceration and,
Difficulties,see Family difficulties 216–17;see also specific ethnicities
Discovery,see Family discovery Exodus International,144
Discrimination,7,21; coping with,
181–82,208,214–15,217–21; fear of, “Faggot,”69,178
94–96,160; institutional policies/ Failure to launch: Mothers, daughters
practices and,5,56 and,165–66; Mothers, sons and,
Dissonance reduction,108 163–65,166,167; parents worry over
Distance/distancing,27,71; African children’s,163–67
American youth and,217,227–28; Families: African American,3,10,11,17,
to avoid conflict,103,121–22,217, 19–20,21,32,56–57,76,83–84,88,
228; children and,4,11,31–32,103–6; 185,216–23,226–27; Asian,50,116,
divergent perceptions of parent/child 224,251; crisis of soldiers being called
and,27–31,106–10,169–73,200–201; to service and leaving,40–41; HIV
family sensitization, conflict and, and gay sons launched by,212–14;
31–39; fathers and paternal,12–16,27; Latino,37–38,57–58,90,106,170–71,
initiated by youth,103–6; mothers 197,216–17,223–24,226–27,228,229,
and,199; parent-child boundaries 251; managing stigma as affair of,
and mutual,120–23; relationship 214–15; myths and heterosexual,85,
changes during family discovery and, 109; ongoing difficulties in,197–208;
101–6; temporary parent-child,82,88 proud parents, happy children and,
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