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Anxiety (continued) Capote, Truman,188
parents, youth and,49–63; self-blame Carter, B.,4
and,143; youth and,111 Case examples: parental adjustment and
Asians,248; double stigma and,224; negative,158;see also Coming out
families,50,116,224,251; stigma and, Cather, Willa,188
224; youth,50,116,224,248;see also Catholicism,98,139,149,171,192
Coming out Celebrities, gay/lesbian,55,143,146,
Aviance, Kevin,161 188
Chalmers, Allan K.,183
Bailey, J. M.,188 Children: conflict between parents and,
Behavior: appearing gay and,159–63; 31–36; confronted by parents about
boys’ sexual,167–69; cross-gendered, coming out,72–79; distancing and,
19,76,148,159–63,240–43; ef- 4,11,31–32,103–6; divergent percep-
feminate,5,7,19–20,21,162; innate, tions of parents and,27–31,106–10,
142–47; risky,75–76,92–93,203–5; 169–73,200–201; early stirrings in,
self-protective,7; sudden changes 1–2,3; family recovery and ele-
in,41,63; tomboy,19,159;see also ments un/helpful to,169–73; fathers’
Coming out relationship with, x–xi,12–16,32,80;
Berg, I. K.,211 fear for well being of,202–3; fears
Bernstein, Robert,129 of rejection by,86–87; figuring out
Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians personal identities, ix–x; gift of gay
and Gays Talk About Their Experiences or lesbian,183–215; identity and,2,3;
(Griffin, Wirth and Wirth),129 mothers’ relationship with, x–xi,13;
Bias, penalties for hate crimes and,56 parental adjustment and influence of,
Bible Belt,252 147–51; parental rejection and fears
the Bible: antigay scripture and,98;see of, xiv,1,57–58,112; physical harm
also Religion and,5–6; precoming-out subphase
“Bi now, gay later,”146 and interaction of parents and,58;
Bisexuality,64,218; African Americans proud parents, families and happy,
and,235–36; as gateway sexual ori- 185–87; sexuality and,2–3; therapists
entation,64,146–47,231–35; sexual being asked to “convert” gay,175;
fluidity and,235–39; stigma of,146 treatment and working with,41–45,
Blame, self,82–84,122–23,128,134,139, 59–62,126–27,176; unchanged rela-
143,178,246 tionships with fathers and,197–201;
Boundaries,87,105,110,112,152,174; see also Coming out; Fathers; Moth-
parent-child mutual distancing and, ers; Youth
120–22;see also Distance/distancing Chopp, R.,5
Boyd-Franklin, Nancy,216 Christianity,98
Boys: conflict between fathers and, Clinical implications: engaging fathers
36–39; risky behavior and,75–76; and,210–12; family discovery and,
sexual behavior of,167–69;see also 58–63,122–33; family recovery and,
Sons; Youth 174–82; family renewal and,209–15;
Brothers,see Siblings family sensitization and,41–47; gift
Bullying,see Peer harassment of gay/lesbian child, family renewal
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